So - like I mentioned in my article this week - we all have a past when it comes to relationships - we have good relationships and also the not so good relationships - and I've had my fair share of both. Now what I was getting at in the article was that every new relationship that we enter will be different from the last. But you have to be the one to make sure of that - by not allowing anything that you didn't like happening in your past relationships to happen in your future ones. If you allowed your ex to treat you badly - then learn from that and DO NOT allow it to happen again.

I was talking to one of my best friends the other day about how much we change as the years go by. It got me thinking about my past relationships and although one of them in particular was difficult and a bit of a rollercoaster - I have no regrets. I learned a lot in that relationship about who I am and what I want for my life and in a relationship. I learned that things only happen if you allow them to happen. And people will treat you a certain way - only if they get away with it.

Today I'm in a great relationship with Barry; he treats me like every guy should treat their partner. We respect each other and trust one another. I didn't tar him with the same brush as my ex's - Barry is his own person - everyone is different and one cannot expect all people to be the same in a relationship. Your ex's are your ex's for a reason - it just wasn't meant to be - so learn from it and move forward.

Take Cheryl Cole for example - she's certainly gone through the mill with her husband Ashley Cole's infidelities - but the next guy she meets will be new. He will not be Ashley and will have different morals to Ashley. Everybody is different - and just because one guy is a cheater doesn't mean the guy will be. Cheryl will have to leave what happened with Ashley in the past and be willing to make a new relationship in the future. Sure it will be hard to trust again - but it would be totally unfair for her to not trust a new guy with other woman - just because her ex was a cheat.

So what I'm trying to say is - Don't tar your new lover with the same brush as your ex - cos if you do - you might just miss out on something really special - and it will no doubt be different to what you've experienced before... because every relationship and every person is different!!

Love,

Katie-Jane xx