Everyone has some tendencies inside them to act like a crazy jealous person, it a natural part of our human makeup…the thing that you all have to watch for is when the jealously begins to get out of hand and starts to take control of your thoughts and even your life… so the question is…. Do you have an overly jealous personality and how can you as a young and youthful cailin change the way you’re acting…and do it sooner rather than later!!

I guess the thing to start off with before I touch on the ugly affects of the Green Eyed Monster is the word Trust. Where there is trust there is no jealously. Bear in mind that I’m not talking about times when you know for a fact that people are acting in an unfaithful way towards you, I’m talking about feelings of jealousy and lack of trust for no good reason. Be it trusting your boyfriend is not cheating on you, trusting that your work colleague innocently forgot to give you that important message, or even trusting that your best friend honestly forgot to call you. Trust… the most important factor in every single relationship in your life.

Where there is lack of trust…. That creepy little green eyed acquaintance can scurry its way back into your subconscious mind and attack all relationships around you! Not good!! It’s like social sabotage and you’re doing it to yourself! Feelings of jealously are your problem and you are the only one who can sort it out. Ask yourself these questions to see if you are a jealous person….. Do you feel jealous every time your boyfriend is out and your not there? Do you check his mobile or emails just to see who’s contacting him? Do you suspect your friends are gossiping about you when you leave the room? Or are you jealous of your friend having other friends apart from you? If you answered yes to any of these questions…This is an issue you need to address… because if you don’t, you won’t have a boyfriend or any friends to be jealous of!!

There are a rake load of reasons why you have these uncalled for feelings of jealousy…. And it’s usually down to your own past. Therefore you are the only one who can change the way your feeling and acting. I like to believe that when you’re in any relationship – the other person who is in that relationship with you is there to support you – and help you through even the irrational times… like jealousy! So talk to them – explain how your feeling and there reassurance will help you overcome your issues. It might even be an idea to talk to your doctor or a counsellor before things get out of hand.
 
So unless you have a just cause to be suspicious…. trust the people in your life and I can assure you, you’ll feel better when you do and your relationships will start to flourish!

Love,

Katie-Jane xx

Things to look at if you think you may have a jealous streak!

1. – Seen as your still young, now is the best time to address and change your jealous tendencies.
2. – If there is a lack of trust in any relationship, the relationship will find it very hard to last, so unless you have a good reason not to trust the people in your life… try to put the jealous thought out of your mind.
3. – Feelings of jealously are your problem, and you are the only one who can change the way your feeling or acting.
4. – Talk to the person you are having the feeling towards, explain how your feeling and then perhaps the reassurance they give you, will help you to overcome your problems.
5. – If you are finding it very difficult to change your thought patterns, perhaps seek outside help from your doctor or a therapist.