Goldin Girl Column

If your relationship is getting serious, let them know about your past...

We all have a past - and what I mean by 'past" is what our life was like or what happened in our life before we met our significant other. There might be things lurking back there that you would rather forget about... things that you might not be particularly proud of. Perhaps you acted a certain way or aligned yourself with certain people that were not exactly to your credit. Maybe you did things you regret. But know this, your past does not equal your tomorrow, and as I always say - today is the first day of the rest of your life.

Yes it's true that we cannot change what happened in our past...

Always be the nice one…. No matter what they did to provoke you!

When people tell me they want to make someone that has upset them or hurt them feel the same pain they felt or that they want to get revenge in some way or another... I tell advise them not to. It's always better to be the nice one no matter what. I say this so often in my Clinic to people that come into see me, that I already know the answer you are going to give me. "Its much easier said then done!" True. I get that. It's hard to be nice to someone if they have upset you, hurt you or provoked you. But the benefits of being the nice one - outweigh being the nasty one ten fold.

Now I totally understand that you may want someone that has hurt you to feel hurt back...

Giving vs. Receiving… what are your thoughts?

We all love to receive things in our lives. Gifts, love, encouragement, complements, inspiration, humor, gratitude, money, wealth, knowledge and many more…. The list is endless… I suppose its human nature to want to get and accumulate things that will enhance our lives… and of course that’s great – on paper, its how we make our live better and feel full. The more you have, the fuller you are right?! And that’s what the goal is right?... to get as much as you can to make you feel better?! Hummmmmmm… I’m not quite sure!

Lets flip the coin and check out the other side…

A Visualization technique to help you stick to your resolutions!!

Happy New Year!!! 2011!! and you know its not just a new year… but a whole new decade!! So what are you going to do? What positive changes or resolutions are you going to make?

The Start of every year people make their new years resolutions… from stopping smoking, to losing weight… to getting more confidence and improving communication still… to clearing out all the unhealthy junk food and boosting that new healthy you that just cant wait to get into the gym and become the best you can possibly be! People have high hopes of achievement for the coming year….

An End of Year Gratitude Exercise to help you get things in perspective….

It's Christmas, a time of year when people's emotions are heightened... Either in a positive frantic running around trying to get things done way... Or in a negative, worry, low depressive kind of way. I guess that is just what the holidays do to people. People are rushing here and there.... Buying presents, choosing presents they want bought for them, worrying about money, worrying about not having this or not being able to do that.... Peoples mind's are on overdrive at this time of year... rushing, worrying... yada yada yada...