Goldin Girl Column

What you say about yourself now... will be subliminally programmed into your kids mind forever!

How do you feel about yourself? Is there anything that you feel you don't like about yourself? Are you happy with your weight? Do you think you have a big nose? A protruding jaw line? Dangly toes? Wonky elbows? Maybe you're going gray or balding.... we all have things about ourselves that we are not crazy happy about. Things that you feel negative about, that create a black/grey cloud over your self image - these things however, are only your opinion of yourself.... They might not be how other people see you. Either way - how you feel about yourself is something that you should not mention in front of your children.

Notice the subtle signs of love.... In every color!!

There are many different ways a person can show their love for you. Most people associate romance and caring with typical red and pink gestures and so they think that if they're partner isn't bringing them flowers or chocolates.... Or taking them out for romantic meals and saying, "I love you" every day... it can mean they don't care.

I've had many clients in the clinic say they feel their partners never really show how much they love them - because they don't do these cliché romantic gestures on a regular basis. So I ask them... What about the little things they do for you that aren't associated with the typical red and pink romance?

Stop feeling the Colors of argueing and be the first to say sorry...

It doesnt matter whats its about, what you said to them or what they said to you.... it doesnt matter who started it, or if your right or wrong.... Be the bigger person and be the first to say sorry.... otherwise I'm going to put you on the naughty step! (you're never to old for the naughty step if you're acting like a child!)

Many people find that little "sorry" word very hard to say.... they feel they will look week or lose respect or have their pride knocked... especially if they are feeling Red with Rage, Green with Envy and Jealousy or Black with Anger....

Do you have good manners?

No Matter what kind of person you are… a feisty red person, a calm blue lady or a happy yellow mellow fellow J manners are still a major part of everyone’s personality. Do you have good manners? Do you know what good manners are? A lot of people tend to think that it’s only the uber polite, prim and proper royal aristocrat folk who need to have and keep good manners. But for everyone else in society today – nearly anything goes… and you know what – society is quite forgiving when it comes to manners. I know a lot of the “manners” my parents would have been brought up with would have totally gone by the way side in this day and age… (my dad used to stand up every time a lady would leave the dinner table… I don’t know many men that do that today) and so being borderline mannerly is acceptable. But what makes that ok? Would it not be nice to be polite at all times, to be mannerly, chivalrous and courteous?

If your relationship is not working - listen to your inner voice

If you look back at your life, at your previous relationships before they ended... and I’m talking about the relationships that didnt work out here...think back to how you were feeling and thinking when you were in that relationship – I bet you will admit that you knew (long before you actually broke up)... deep down inside yourself somewhere, that it wasnt going to work out. You had an inkling.... or gut feeling.... you just knew that the relationship wasnt right?!

A lot of people carry on in a relationship (that they know is not right for them) for a good while longer then they should... months... maybe even years... pretending they don’t feel that way...