Goldin Girl Column

You cannot make them love you...

So you think you've found Mr or Mrs Right... your head over heels... problem is... they're not really that into it. You're trying to do everything you can to get them to realise that you are "The One"... bending over backwards for them in the hope that they will reciprocate your feelings 10 fold.... But you seem to have this niggling feeling in your tummy that they just won't.

If you've been together for a while - I'm sure you know they like you... perhaps the relationship is easy for them... and for you... you get on very well together... but deep down inside, if you really stop to think about it... and ask yourself one of the hardest questions in the love department "Do they really love me?" and if your gut feeling...says "I'm not quite sure!" then that should be your warning signal to get your nikes on your bikeies and start peddling!!

People will find it hard to love you… until you love yourself!

You've probably heard the saying before "One must love themselves before another can love them"... I don't know where I heard that actually - maybe I made it up?!?! Either way it's something I tell my clients at The Paul Goldin Clinic on a regular basis. Let's break it down for some Goldin Analysis.... It is a Goldin Fact that if you are unhappy with who you are, how your inner self is and sees the world, if you feel out of sync with your subconscious mind and unconnected with who you really are.... Then how can you possibly feel 100% connected to another human being?! The reality is... you couldn't.

Behave and Respect your Partner better than your best friend!

This is something that if you think about consciously for a moment or two – you will realise that a lot – if not most people treat their partner with less respect than they would a good friend. What do I mean by that – well think about it – if your friend does something silly – acts in a stupid way or says something you don’t agree with – you would usually just laugh it off? But if your partner does something along the same lines – a lot of people would jump down their throat - belittle them, nag, tell people what they did and probably not allow them to forget it for a very very long time! You see where I’m going here? Couples are mean to each other and that shouldn’t be the case. They SHOULD, like I said, behave better towards each other than they do with their friends…. Because at the end of the day – your partner should really be your best friend (as well as your love)!

Stress and how to cope with it!

The human mind operates a bit like a computer, the feedback it gives the body depends a lot on the programming of the mind. If the mind is programmed to take life over-seriously and extra sensitively, it will produce a sense of anguish and torment for the mind, which in turn will cause stress in the body. On the other hand, if the mind is programmed to take life as a fun and spontaneous adventure, then it will produce calmness and positivity within the mind and a relief of stress in the body will result. So what I'm ultimately saying is that you need to have control over your own mind. You need to be the one who decides how you are going to feel. Mind-Control, which can be learned through hypnosis, will provide a means of purposely and deliberately programming your mind in order for you to get the desired feedback your body needs; i.e. less stress!

Think like a wealthy person… and that’s where you’ll end up

How do wealthy people think? What are they into? What are their hobbies? What newspapers do they read? Where do they eat? How do they live? Where do they shop? Do you understand their lingo? What do they do to relax? How do they go about a working day? And how do they save and invest all the money they have made??

Food for thought eh?!? Well I think so anyway! If you want to be something, or be like someone in life - you gotta know how to do it. And the best way to do that is to mirror them. Copy them. Do what they do. Read the papers they read. Get yourself educated in the realms of the wealthy. Learn their language and understand what they are talking about. Read financial newspapers, read books about business and autobiographies from people who have made it rich. How did they do it? How do they live? How much time do they devote to work? Keep yourself up to date with what's going on in the world... the financial world... and become a part of that knowledge.