When people tell me they want to make someone that has upset them or hurt them feel the same pain they felt or that they want to get revenge in some way or another... I tell advise them not to. It's always better to be the nice one no matter what. I say this so often in my Clinic to people that come into see me, that I already know the answer you are going to give me. "Its much easier said then done!" True. I get that. It's hard to be nice to someone if they have upset you, hurt you or provoked you. But the benefits of being the nice one - outweigh being the nasty one ten fold.

Now I totally understand that you may want someone that has hurt you to feel hurt back...

When you are nice, nobody can ever complain about how you acted or behaved in the situation. Keep the moral high ground and be proud of yourself for it and then they will be the ones feeling the guilt for their bad behaviour.

Revenge or being nasty back to someone that has hurt you will not reap the benefits you think you will get from it. Not only will you still feel hurt or upset - but you will have cheapened yourself to act in a way you normally wouldn't.

People have said to me that if they don't lash back, then they feel they might be considered weak or easily walked all over. Your wrong. You can of course tell someone that they have hurt you and how they made you feel.... All I'm saying is - don't you lower yourself and do the same back to them... or to anyone else for that matter. Be the nice one and nobody will ever be justified in saying you are anything but!

Smile back....

Katie Jane xx

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