We all worry about what other people think of us. Its human nature I suppose. We all want to be acknowledged, loved... appreciated. We want to feel a part of something and to belong. We all have fears and worries about acceptance and its easy to feel vulnerable for having your own opinions about things that may differ from your piers. I guess quite often people just give up on their own thoughts and opinions because its easier to just be what other people want you to be.... to think how they think, so you don't stand out from the crowd. Now I'm not saying everyone does this - and if you are one of the people who do in fact think for themselves no matter what others say about you - then this little article can be a good reminder for you to stay focused and true to yourself.

. lets say you were watching a debate with a group of friends. All of them are against the topic.... but you are for it. You disagree with what all of them think. Do you tell them you don't agree with their opinion? Or do you just go along with them and not mention what you really think?
Let me give you an example...

Depending on how self assured are you within yourself... how content you are in your own sense of identity... how clear you are in your thoughts and opinions.... and knowing who you really are and what you stand for... will determind how open you are and how willing you are to voice your opinions and differences. You see, its not just about the little things like your personal opinion over a debate.... its about what it represents in the bigger picture of your life.

You need to be self assured within yourself, in who you are and what you stand for in general, so that your sense of self is not swayed or manipulated by worrying about what other people think of you. It's so important that you can think for yourself, make your own opinions, have your own identity and be sure of who you really are in order to live the best possible life you can.

Saying or doing something origional or different can make you stand out from the crowd... and that in itself can frighten people... and often people see that as a negaive thing. But lets reframe that thought.... what if you could see it as a positive.... because believe me - there is so much more to be said for being different, creative, and self assured with your own thoughts and opinions... then waisting them all away in fear of someone notising that you think differently to them.

Successful people are different. They stand out from the crowd. They are grounded in their own identity and clear and focused about how they think and what their opinions are. They are looked up to and respected for their self assured sense of origionality.

In order to really feel content in speaking your opinions and acting differently to your peirs your thoughts should be your own.... not that of your parents, your friends, your local newspaper or joe blogs down the street. You need to be able to look at situations from all directions... see them from different points of view and then make decisions for yourself about how you feel about them. What your own personal opinion and thoughts are. Then you need to feel confident enough within yourself to say them and stand for them. We were all made to think differenlty... and thats what makes the world and us humans interesting! If everyone thought exactly the same... the world would be a pretty boring place!

So now, if for whatever reason, you still feel nervous about being different, thinking for yourself, having your own opinions and speaking out from the crowd.... then this is definatly something you need to work on. You need to work on getting your confidence levels up, raising your self esteem and learn how to not allow other peoples thoughts and opinions to affect how you think, or ultimatly how you feel. You can email me on This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it if you feel you may be lacking in confidence and I can give you some personal advice on ways to get your confidence levels and self worth right up there with the best of them!! (I promise to write back!!) This is your life - and you are intitled to be confident in your own opinions and to be different, creative and origianal.... Because believe me, it is the people that are confident enough within themselves to be, think and do exactly what they want to do in this world that really make it!!

Its your life.... so live it the way your subconscious mind wants you to live it!!

Love,

Katie Jane xx