Game Playing, when it comes to your relationship - or dating - is something that most people have done at some time or another. I bet that the majority of those dates/relationships that have started off with the auld game playing vibe have ended. Why's that? I'll tell you why... because if you start a relationship with game playing - that is usually how it will carry on... and if you don't want to be playing games 3 years into the relationship - then you never should have started playing them in the beginning. They can cause you to feel unproductive negative colors that you wouldn't be feeling in a good easy going happy relationship.

Some Game Playing colors include:
Green = If they have made you feel jealousy or envy.
Blue = If you are feeling low (if they haven't called you back or texted you back)
Black = The black mood they put you in messing your head around.

Ok - so I get it - I've been there - I've played the games... they are pretty tempting and exciting sometimes.... Maybe it's the one where you wait for 3 days to call her? Or maybe when you get a text from him - you tell yourself you have to wait 6 hours to reply (even though you probably wrote the text you were going to send straight away... you just saved it in your "draft folder" until later!! You see I have done it!!). People who are already in relationships often play games because their partner is not acting or responding to them the way they would like them to. For example it might be your anniversary, and your don't remind them because you feel that "if they really loved you... they would remember on their own". We are all human... we can all forget things from time to time... so if you want them to remember your anniversary.... Remind them! Don't play relationship destroying mind games with them.

I had a client in the clinic a number of years ago, and she was always playing games with her boyfriends. It was a habit. She would meet a guy, and always wait for him to call her. She would never call him, never text him, and her relationship story always ended the same - he would eventually end it, either because he felt she was unresponsive or uninterested, or he felt she wasn't that into him because she never put in any effort. This was a continuous cycle until she realized her behaviour was not productive, game playing wasn't the answer to having a good relationship - and if something is not working... try something else. So she did.... The next time she met a guy - when he texted her - she wrote straight back! When he called her - she answered. When he asked her out on a date (where she would previously had said she was busy no matter what night he asked her out, and that they would have to find another day) she said yes! They have been together over 4 years now and have just gotten engaged. (Congratulations if you're reading this Sarah!)

So what am I getting at here... Game playing is dangerous ground for relationships... and it can very easily turn out disastrous. So stop playing games. If you want him to ask you out - let him know! If you want to talk to him - call him! If you want her to come and watch you play football - ask her. If you want your partner to do something with you that means a lot to you - just tell them. Sit down and talk to each other, its straight to the point and at least you will know honestly how they feel. Start a relationship they way you want it to continue. I bet you don't like when people play games with you - so why inflict that kind of behaviour and all the feeling attached with playing on someone else - especially if they are someone that you actually like and would like to have a good relationship with. Allow yourself to feel positive good relationship colors.

Good Relationship Colors include:
Red = Creating feelings of love and passion
Pink = Feeling of Light Love and easiness.
Yellow = Happiness
White = Calm and Relaxation
Purple = luxury and pampering and being cared for in your relationship

So come now... time to change your "relationship/dating game plan" by not playing the games!! Start the way you mean to go on and choose to feel colors that will make your relationship good to begin with and even better as you go on...

Love,

Katie-Jane xx

P.s. I love hearing from you. Email me your thoughts and idea's and any new strategies you have for dating / your relationships in the future!! If you used to be a game player and have decided to stop - keep in touch with me and let me know how your dating/relationship life has improved!! I promise I'll write back!!