Guilt is a funny old emotion... and its one that is very self centred and pretty much all about you and your inner feelings. Guilt usually appears in our lives for a reason...and if it creeps its creepy little way into your life... then it should be dealt with immediately so as not to keep those pointless guilt ridden feelings rattling around in your brain for any longer then they should. Now don't get me wrong - I do believe that feelings of guilt can only be felt by good natured people. People, who have morals and feel bad when they have done something wrong, hurt someone who trusted them, let somebody down or just made a mistake in some way. But at the end of the day - those feelings are pointless and a complete waste of time and energy if you don't act upon them. You need to learn how to deal with your guilt one way or another and move forward.

As human beings, it's only natural to make mistakes every now and again... we say the wrong thing, blurt out something we shouldn't have, act without thinking about the consequences.... It's happened to all of us at some point... and if you have any sort of morals, then the guilt will begin to scurry its way into your subconscious.

Guilt will make you feel nauseous, paranoid and tired amongst many other emotions and can have a seriously negative effect on ones everyday life. You have to learn how to deal with the guilt and make things right. Get back in control of yourself, your feelings and what you did to feel guilty about in the first place. You know in your subconscious mind and well... in your heart.... what needs to be done to move past the guilt... so don't put off till tomorrow what you can do today.... It's time to put things right TODAY!! RIGHT NOW!!!

So first things first... lets take a quick look and see if you have just reason to feel guilty or if you are just being paranoid having over analysed something or having feelings of un-necessary obligation.

Some people feel guilt for just saying "no" to someone when they ask for something. This is something that you do not need to feel guilty for (once you don't say no to them every single time!!) But I'm talking about if they ask you for something that is not practical or you are unable to do... then in these cases you have every right to say "no" and there should be no feelings of guilt attached.

But if you do something that affects another person's life or feelings in a negative way - then yes, I do think you would have a reason to feel guilty. You obviously have a conscience. So then try your very best to make things right again. Say you're sorry. I know, I know... it's a hard thing to do sometimes.... Saying sorry... but really - if you've hurt someone - it's only a little step to take in order to put things right and rid yourself of the guilt. But do it with meaning... there is no point in just saying the words unless you really really mean them.

If unfortunately they won't accept your apology (which can happen) then at least you will know within yourself that you tried. Learn from what you did and never let it happen again. Move forward, past the guilt and start over.

Guilt is a feeling that usually has a reason for popping into your body and mind - so whatever the reason is... learn from it, don't let it happen again... and you will have learned how to keep that little guilty gorier at bay!!

So if you're feeling guilty for something in your life as your reading this... go on... do the right thing...and I know that you already know what that is!!!

Katie-Jane xx

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