If you look back at your life, at your previous relationships before they ended... and I’m talking about the relationships that didnt work out here...think back to how you were feeling and thinking when you were in that relationship – I bet you will admit that you knew (long before you actually broke up)... deep down inside yourself somewhere, that it wasnt going to work out. You had an inkling.... or gut feeling.... you just knew that the relationship wasnt right?!

A lot of people carry on in a relationship (that they know is not right for them) for a good while longer then they should... months... maybe even years... pretending they don’t feel that way...

or hoping that they can make it work and fix things. But you know what... if you are feeling that way and hearing that little inner voice... that subconscious fountain of knowledge that is internally you.... telling you that the relationship is just not right... then you should listen. Its always better to get out of something thats not going to work in the long run – sooner rather then later. The longer you leave it... the harder and more difficult it becomes.

In the majority of relationships people have doubts at some point or another – so I’m not suggesting you pack up and rock out as soon as something rocks the boat a little. Relationships do need work.... thats for sure... but what I am saying is that you will know – your inner self and your subconscious intuition will undoubtly know, when you are in a relationship that is not for you and is past the point of being able to be “worked on”.

So why do people wait so long before they make the final and correct decision for themselves when it comes to ending a relationship?! Well, lets be honest here... because ending a relationship isnt as easy as saying “see ya later!” When you’re a little bit older and have been with that certain person for a number of years perhaps... You could have a lot invested in the relationship. Material things, family, kids, money issues and living arrangements are just some of the things that could make someone feel they have to stay in a relationship that is dead as a dodo. There are also emotional issues, worrying about what other people will think? Or maybe, just maybe, you are afraid of being on your own?! The truth is that a lot of people find it easier to just plod along in their “not so great” relationship, then to build up the courage to end it and give themselves the opportunity to find an “oh so great” relationship.. (which might in fact be better for both people).

Think about your relationship now. If you know... and I mean really KNOW that the relationship you are in now, is not right for you.... and just wont work in the future... Then get up the courage and do the right thing – not just for you – but for your partener as well. Holding onto them, waisting their time, is not fair either.

I’ve had clients in the clinic who have stayed together only for the sake of the kids. They knew they didnt want to be together in a relationship – they weren’t in love anymore – yet still they stayed together becuase they thought it was the right thing to do for the children. Kids are very intuitive. They know when things are not right, especially between their partents. They can feel tension in a house and that can affect them in worse ways then a seperation can. Some children, in the long run, would probably be happier if their parents just seperated and let them get on with a new way of life, then to live in a house full of tension and anxiety.

If you don’t have kids.... and you know in your gut that the relationship  is not right, then why are you still together? Why bother dragging things out and making it harder in the long run? If your worried about what other people will think then you had better think long and hard about your life. This is your life. Nobody else’s. You have to do whats right for you... and if other people have an opinion on that – then so what.... let them! As far as we know – you only have one life... so make it a good one... live it the way you want – live it in a way that makes you happy. You dont want to be 92 years old and looking back at your life thinking you never did what you wanted to do – or what your little inner subconscious voice was telling you was right for you?! 

At the end of the day – its your decision how happy or miserable you are in your relationship. You have the choice to keep on being miserable... or do something about it – listen to your inner voice and it will know whats right for you! Change is scary – but if its the right thing for you in the long run – and your intuition knows that – then do it now rather then in 10 years time when you will have just been dragging things out for not only yourself – but others too!

Be honest with yourself and your partner and do the right thing for both of you.

Live the life your intuition knows you should be living....

Love,

Katie Jane xx