Every couple annoy each other in some little way or another..... Whether it's leaving toothpaste all over the sink... putting an empty orange juice carton back in the fridge.... or pressing the snooze button on the alarm clock 17 times before they eventually get up. Every couple have their own quirky things that push each other's buttons and trigger those feelings of annoyance we get inside us from time to time. Every person on this earth is an individual - and when two individuals live together - their habits can annoy one another... question is... what are you going to do about it in order to keep your sanity and not upset your partner or cause an argument?!

For example...Have you ever seen that episode of Sex and The City where Harry leaves tea bags all over the place instead of putting them in the bin and he also loves walking around naked?! Now Charlotte loves Harry - we all know that... but she can't handle his annoying teabag and nakedness habits! So she has to tell him! Good work Charlotte... something had to be done before she lost control.

You see, when things annoy us - and we don't mention it... the annoying behaviour continues - it then builds and builds, and you get more and more wound up until eventually you lose control and end up having an almighty fight with your beloved about something they probably didn't even realise they were doing that bothered you so much!! And you know what, If you don't say it to them at all - they'll probably never cop on and that thing they do that annoys you soooooo much will go on forever and ever and ever and ever and ever... ;) bothered yet?! Ok... time to do something about it then!!

So what am I trying to say here... if your partner irritates you by, never putting the toilet seat down, never using a clean knife for the butter, double dipping their fork at meal times, or always missing the washing basket when pretending to be Michael Jordan and shooting his dirty socks rolled up into a little ball from across the room screaming "He shoots... he ssccooooorrrreeeesssss......" except in reality he misses - doesn't bother picking them up after and just leaves them wherever they land - leaving you to pick them up in the end.... Now - That's when it's time to do something about it before your head pops off with annoyance! Yep - we all do things that annoy each other, I actually doubt there is a couple in the world that haven't gotten on each other's nerves at some point in their relationship. Sure it's important to be as tolerant as you can with your partner, but if something is really pulling on your strings - then obviously it's something that has to be talked about

Now... here comes the main point - if you're going to tell them that whatever it is that they do really annoys you - then do it in a nice and humorous way. Humour always makes things easier to hear and take on board - because you don't want them getting defensive now about their quirky little habit now do you?! Nope!! That could be disastrous for the relationship! Seriously - you gotta say it in a funny way! Start with a smile and say for example "hey honey, love of my life, stallion, Adonis - you know the way you always get into bed after me, leaving the main light on and then I have to get out of bed and turn it off again.... Perhaps, next time, because you're so good at turning off lights that you should get a prize as the best light turneroffer (I love making up words) in the world - you could do it before you get into bed , so I don't have to do it?" and then give him the biggest smile... you know the one's with teeth!! Saying something with humour - will get your point across and not make them feel so bad about what they were doing. Cos if you went the other way and said " will you please, for the 100th time, turn off the light before you get into bed, it's really annoying me and it just doesn't seem to go into your empty dumb head!" I don't think it would be the best solution, and not only cause an argument, make him feel bad, but undoubtly wouldn't change the behaviour either !

So from now on - whatever your partner does to annoy you - tell them, before you go crazy with irritation... but tell them in a NICE HUMOUROUS way... and the results will be fantastic for your relationship! It will feel like a weight has lifted off your shoulders!!

Let me know how you get on - email me on This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it ... I'd love to hear your thoughts!!
Love,
Katie-Jane xx

P.S - I'm sure there are things that you do to annoy your partner as well... so if you're going to tell them what annoys you - it would be a good idea to ask them if anything you do that annoys them!! Just make sure to give them this article to read first - so they tell you the honest truth with a side of humour!! Hehe!!