How do you feel about yourself? Is there anything that you feel you don't like about yourself? Are you happy with your weight? Do you think you have a big nose? A protruding jaw line? Dangly toes? Wonky elbows? Maybe you're going gray or balding.... we all have things about ourselves that we are not crazy happy about. Things that you feel negative about, that create a black/grey cloud over your self image - these things however, are only your opinion of yourself.... They might not be how other people see you. Either way - how you feel about yourself is something that you should not mention in front of your children.

Why you might ask?!..... Well, because parents programme their children's belief system. They may inherit how you feel about yourself and then in 20 years time, when they start to go gray or notice that they have the same shaped jaw as you have (you know the one that you complained soooooo much about) they too will see it in a negative way. Where as if you had embraced your premature balding or the fact that you weren't the tallest person you know.... Then they would have most likely see it in a positive light.

Children follow their parents thought patterns. It's a natural thing. Children are programmed by their parents subliminally. If they hear you bashing on and on about how much you dislike being short.... Then if they are not gifted with long legs... they too will feel embarrassed and hate being short. But... if you instead had always said how lucky you were to be shorter then other people, if you told them positive things about being short, such as maybe being able to wear any size stiletto without worrying about being to tall... then I bet your children would have a completely different attitude to their height!!

You see, your job as a parent is to spin things in a positive way for the sake of your children. How you speak about your insecurities or even how you jest with your partner about theirs... be it for putting on weight or getting a receding hairline.... is how your children may feel about themselves in years to come having being programmed from a young age.... And you know what... even if you change your tune later on in life... and try to convince them they look more distinguished with glasses or gray hair.... They wont believe you!

Always remember everything you say goes into your children's little brains... and will surface in years to come.... So make it all positive!!

Love,

Katie-Jane xx

P.S.... I'm going to be an Auntie!!! My brother Ricky's first child is due in October.... Check out this picture... we're all very excited!!!