Sex. It's a funny little word with a lot of intent behind it. What does it mean to you in light of your relationship? Where is it in your priorities of finding the right partner for the rest of your life?
Sure it's important to have sexual chemistry in a relationship, don't get me wrong. but relationships are not all about what goes on in the bedroom. Strong loving relationships can and do last a lifetime, where as a persons libido can come and go. So now, fast forward your relationship a few years and notice other things that come into play like work, kids, stress, the in-laws, money issues...and so on. The truth is, a relationship that it based on sex - is going to find it difficult to deal with day-to-day problems. Oh, we are behind on our rent this month... or little Johnny has the chickenpo. Nothing a rendezvous with your partner, swinging from chandeliers in the height of passion can't fix right?! Eh... I don't think so!!!

Relationships must be built on love and communication, not just lust. I have seen clients in my clinic who have made this mistake, and think because the action in the bedroom is great - that they have a fantastic relationsh... then the lust wears off... and they begin to realize that their fantastic relationship was just their mind being seduced by lust. Eventually when reality of the relationship set in with real problems to deal wi... the love and communication just wasn't there to sustain it.
So let me ask you this - if you are in a relationship now... what is it built on? If it's mainly about your physical chemistry have you thought about what will happen when your partners libido dwindles from time-to-time or other things happen that prevent the bedroom activities? Is there enough love in the relationship to keep you together? Is the relationship strong enough to get you both through the good times and the bad times? To get you through problems, and stressful situations, illness and well... things that life just throws at us? If you have to stop and think about that, and sex really is the string that holds your relationship together, then think very carefully before you say "I Do".
My advice would be to wait until the honeymoon period is over... and you can see objectively what your relationship is truly made of, because as important as it is to be physically attracted to your partner...and have that chemistry between you... the other factors of love, support, respect and sharing your life together are vitally important.

 

Love,

Katie-Jane xx

P.s. Stress can have a very powerful negative affect on your relationships. It can affect your emotions, your decision-making and even your self-confidence and belief in yourself. If you are suffering from Stress - My "De-Stress" CD can help you. It has 3 tracks.

Track1 - an introduction (which is just an explanation on how it will work for you)

Track 2 - The De-Stress Relaxation (This is where you will be asked to close your eyes in a comfortable place and just allow your mind to imagine / visualize what you are being guided to on the CD - the suggestions will go into your subconscious mind and help you change your reaction to stressful situations automatically)

Track 3 - Subliminal Relaxation Music.

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So now, take a nice long deep breath in... hold it to the mental count of four... and then slowly exhale it all the way out... and just allow yourself to relax...