Relationships

Every singer has asked this question. From Tina Turner to Howard Jones, everyone craves an answer.

So what is love, and how do we get it?

It can’t be about the physical appearance. If that was the case, why do some spectacularly beautiful people team up with ugly brutes? Love is an intangible force with defies definition..

My theory is that it is psycho / psychological vibration order that can pass between two individuals.

It may be said that two individuals who are in love, are “on the same wavelength”, “in tune” or “in accord” with each other.

When a violin string is plucked it vibrates at a specific frequency, which will cause other strings of the same amplitude to also vibrate. This is the basics of harmonics, or put another way, a union of vibrations.

Just as in music the sound we may hear of a certain vibration is registered in our sense of hearing as a musical note, we all analyse (vibrations) sounds in a different way, according to our mental make-up.

One sound that may appeal to one person may not appeal to another. Jazz music or Heavy Metal may be a complete discord to a fan of Chopin.

We know that a particular colour may appeal to one person and be abhorrent to another. So the way we feel, at a particular time, may be registered or interpreted by the colour that we may prefer at a specific time.

As with a relationship, there has to be a common medium between the individual concerned. Love at first sight may seem very real, but unless there is a reflection of love, it will only survive for a short time.

Compare love as a “Tree” standing on the bank of a river. If the river flows gently and smoothly – there will be a reflection of the tree so strong in the river that on a photograph it would appear as there are two trees. A light on the bank will reflect with similar intensity from the stream. It ripples are caused in the stream, the light will not be as strong, but if the river runs true, the reflection will strengthen.

In order to be able to love, one must love oneself. How can you give of oneself if it is not there in the first place. Condition yourself to loving yourself and the rest will follow.